For Families

You've Been Carrying This Long Enough.

Name: Agape Sober Living
Address: Costa Mesa, CA, US
Telephone: (949) 350-4822
Price range: $$

Loving someone through addiction is exhausting, heartbreaking, and isolating. You don't have to do this alone anymore. We're here to help — you and them.

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“Loving someone through addiction is one of the most courageous things a human being can do.”

We know you've been up at night wondering if they're safe. We know you've tried everything. We know you're exhausted from hoping, worrying, and feeling helpless.

We see you. And we want you to know: you are not failing. Addiction is a powerful force, and the fact that you're here — looking for answers — is an act of profound love.

We're Here for You Too

How Agape Supports Families

Open Communication

We keep you informed with regular updates on your loved one's progress and well-being — with their consent.

Visitation

Scheduled visitation so you can see where your loved one lives and meet the community supporting them.

Family Education

Resources and guidance to help you understand addiction, recovery, and how to support without enabling.

Al-Anon & Support Referrals

We connect you with Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, and family support groups in Orange County.

Admissions Guidance

If you're calling on behalf of a loved one, we'll walk you through every step — with compassion and patience.

Direct Access to Kimberly Schaffer

You can speak directly with our founder. She has helped hundreds of families navigate this path.

When to Consider Sober Living

Signs Your Loved One May Need Sober Living

Have you noticed any of the following?

They've completed treatment but don't have a safe, sober place to live.
They keep returning to the same environment — and the same patterns.
They're isolating and losing connection with supportive people.
They're struggling to maintain employment or daily responsibilities.
You've noticed mood changes, secrecy, or old behaviors returning.
They've expressed a desire to change but don't know where to start.
You feel like you're running out of options.

If any of these resonate, a conversation with us might help. Call (949) 350-4822.

Guidance for Families

How to Have the Conversation

Do:

Choose a calm, private moment — not during a crisis or argument.
Use 'I' statements: 'I'm worried about you' instead of 'You need to...'
Express love first. Make it clear this comes from care, not control.
Be specific about what you've observed — behaviors, not character.
Offer a concrete next step: 'I found a place called Agape. Can we call together?'
Be prepared for resistance — and don't take it personally.

Don't:

Don't ambush them or have the conversation when emotions are high.
Don't use shame, guilt, or ultimatums as your opening move.
Don't compare them to others or minimize their experience.
Don't expect them to agree immediately — planting a seed is enough.
Don't give up after one conversation. Recovery is rarely linear.

A reminder for you

You Matter Too

Caring for someone in addiction takes a toll on your own health, relationships, and peace of mind. You deserve support too.

We encourage every family member to explore Al-Anon, therapy, or a support group. Healing is for everyone — not just the person in recovery.

Family Support Resources:

Al-Anon: al-anon.org
Nar-Anon: nar-anon.org
SAMHSA Family Helpline: 1-800-662-4357

Common Questions

Family FAQ

Absolutely. Many of our calls come from family members. We'll answer your questions, explain how sober living works, and help you think through the best approach to bring it up with your loved one. Call (949) 350-4822 any time.

This is incredibly common and painful. You can't force someone into recovery, but you can plant seeds, set boundaries, and take care of yourself. We're happy to talk through strategies and connect you with family support resources.

Yes. We have scheduled visitation times so you can see the home, meet the community, and spend time with your loved one in a safe environment.

With your loved one's consent, we maintain open communication with families. We believe recovery is stronger when families are involved — with healthy boundaries.

No. Sober living is structured housing, not a treatment facility. We don't provide medical detox, therapy, or clinical services. We provide a safe home, accountability, community, and support while your loved one attends outpatient treatment, works, or goes to school.

Sober living is typically a self-pay weekly arrangement. Contact us at (949) 350-4822 for current pricing. We keep our rates transparent and competitive.

You don't have to do this alone

Call Us. Ask Every Question You Have.

Kimberly Schaffer has walked with hundreds of families through this. She understands what you're going through — and she's here to help.

Call (949) 350-4822

Confidential · 7 Days a Week · No judgment